iv always been telling myself that we live in shadows of others, and if the people around us are pleasant, y should we bother about our own feelings? so, we ought to forgive and forget, in whichever encounter.
it is until today that i realise the price of adhering to the above self-hypnotising principle...
if the person concerned has already 'labelled' u as someone he or she has chosen to dislike, trying to please him or her will turn into a futile effort...
u'l still be viewed as someone who does not bother to take the so called 'friendship' seriously.
i admit that i'm not someone good at pleasing people who does not respond to my conversation...
in most circumstances il just let it be and selectively ignoring the person who ignites my frustration.
im certainly not an emo person and most of the time il just sweep my emotions under the carpet as i believe that it is inapproprite to show whatever feeling u have if it may have negative impact on others. it wil just worsen the scenario and make the parties involved to have an impression that u do not know how to carry yourself.
what im trying to say is that in a conflict it does not mean that the victory is always on the side of the person who expresses his or her feelings more... sometimes the one who keeps quite does so because he or she cherishes the friendship between you two and does not want to inflict it with any 'trauma', as a wound which heals will somehow turn into fibous tissue which is no longer as strong as the original tissue... haha a lame example, isn't it?
